Let's be clear, I am not at. And I put the team back. "Julie, brilliant Polytechnique 35 years, remembers how she had slammed after a presentation before a missed big boss. While senior executive in a big bank, she lived what psychologists call the "impostor syndrome" persuaded to usurp the place of someone else, that it would have been more appropriate. In contrast, his sister Mary, painter, flourished in his workshop, and confident of its future. Although the two young women received the same education, was a prey to doubt permanent, while the other walked with confidence. Why such a difference?
According to the Institute of Environmental Medicine (IME), the key to our behavior lies in self-esteem, which is based on three pillars. Temperament, which consists of deep motivations and preferences, is forged from 0 to 6 months: this is the basis of personality. Confidence called spontaneous asserts
at age 3 years, when the child begins to say "no", and reinforced at puberty. Finally, the character is built at each stage of development and experiences of the individual. Or just a lack of a failure in our development as self-esteem is fragile. Adult, specific situations - having to deal with an authority figure like a CEO, move up the ranks, negotiate a big contract ... - can bring back this vulnerability. But self-esteem is not like the color of your eyes, you can make change. Five avenues to get there.
1. Support yourself on your natural disposition
"I want to be lab technician. But in college biology, I depressed. And the day I had to dissect a frog, I decamped. "Celine Chaubard, manager at Companeo (SME board), then shifted to a different chain, sales, where she is pursuing a successful career. "Today, she says,
I am responsible for a team of telemarketers. It would be a mistake to persist in seeking me when I relational fiber and flavor of challenge. "" When you go to his natural predispositions, it is unlikely to fail, "says Pascal Vancutsem, coach leaders at Coaching & Performance.
To identify yours, pay attention to your emotions. In what area do you feel act with ease and fun? If you have a strong sense of internal security is that you are in tune with your true nature. In contrast, following a path that is not his fragile. This is what happened to Julie: conforming to parental diagram of an elitist career, she has upset his taste for financial expertise and altered his opinion of herself. And when she gained a function of top management, the beautiful building is cracked. Whereas according to his artistic vocation, his sister drew on inner motivations.
You press, you also on your talents and natural facilities, whatever the guidelines of your job description. Like the contact? Use the opportunity to create a link between your employees, for example. You are inclined to support the discretion but love? Be present in case of difficulty.
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