The self-confidence of your children

The development of your child concerned. You want him to learn quickly discovers, is interested in everything and feel comfortable in front of others. In short, you secretly hope that your child is the most perfect in the world, and have confidence in him. However, by dint of over-stimulating, you may instead of digging a hole in his esteem. The advice of Dr. Gisele George, a child psychiatrist and author of "The self-confidence of your child" *.
The self-confidence of children she follows directly from the confidence of parents in their child?
Dr. Gisele George: It does not follow, the children draw on the look of confidence that parents refer to their potential ... even if they are also able to change the reference in this field. But it is so much stronger when it comes from people they trust the most.
How to show the way forward: tap into resources and face adversity as failure, violence, death of a parent?
Dr George: First, we must be honest with him, life is not a bed of roses. We must say that sometimes it will be difficult to live with at times. The parent must be able to say as his emotions: many try to hide their sadness and anguish. But it is a waste because children, as I say in my book, perfectly decode their parents. It is possible to say that one is oneself sad when a parent, one is anxious about his professional future is lost and that is why we put maybe a little too much pressure on the child.

Recognize that we have emotions, but also tell him that he can talk about his. Is there a good way to go when a small orphaned? Nobody can answer such a question. By cons, we can recognize the child's pain and allow him to speak. Do not tell him that he should forget, turn the page and it is not the only one in the world to experience such a tragedy. Better to let him cry, saying his anger ... This will allow it to heal and move forward. It is also necessary that the parent has the courage to face the distress of his child and recognize powerless to help. Be recognized and heard in his suffering helps to overcome obstacles. A child does not ask for more.